Today was supposed to be a post about the meaning behind my tattoos. Supposed to be. Wrote the post, planned it out, typed it into my schedule… but as you can see, it isn’t. And that’s okay. Sometimes plans don’t go accordingly. How many people have had to cancel and reschedule plans due to this deluge we’ve been having in the Central Valley? I could hardly see ten feet in front of me on the road this morning. That post will still be coming shortly but my good friend, Malachi, inspired me to write this one.
The truth is, I love planning. I find it helps raise my vibration if it’s something I’m looking forward to; be that blog posts, parties, or trips. I love schedules, I love making to-do lists, shopping lists, packing lists, looking at hotels, restaurants, attractions, etc. When I was younger, if I presented my dad with a detailed plan for a trip I wanted to take, the more likely I was going to get the thumbs up on being able to go. That meant train schedules that included intended departure/arrival times, latest possible departure/arrival times, movie schedules, phone numbers of the people I would be with, blah blah blah. He’s a military man. What can I say? Well, I can say that it makes me happy to see everything organized because that’s true, too. See the color-coded calendars below.
But what about if things don’t go according to plan despite my efforts to be as prepared as possible? There was a long period when it would actually be very upsetting to me. What was the point in taking the time to plan it out if it was just going to fall apart? While I do still suffer from this occasionally, it no longer hits me as hard as it used to. Things falling apart in my life have been teaching me to adapt and keep moving forward. Now, with the help of my friends and family, I do believe I am a stronger person for it.
Also, a practice I have been trying to implement in my own life is embracing unanticipated circumstances as welcomed learning opportunities. Let’s take a couple of recent blog posts I did last month “Feeling Far Away From Myself” and “Why I’m Not Moving to Los Angeles” as examples. The posts lay out how I put excessive amounts of energy into a television project and a planned move to Los Angeles in the near future that included decision making based on that expected relocation. When I discovered my heart was not in the project I was asked to be a part of, I took some time to shift my focus from the disappointment that I might “miss my shot” or “falling behind schedule” to thinking about Gal Gadot. No, I’m not kidding.
Gal Gadot - Wonder Woman herself - intentionally sabotaged her bid for Miss Universe in 2004 AND turned down the opportunity to audition to be a Bond Girl only a few years later. There are those who might have told her that in both of those decisions, the door to fame would be closed to her. But had she become Miss Universe or become a Bond Girl, someone else might have been Wonder Woman. I am not I want anyone else to be Wonder Woman, but it’s true. With lengthy contracts, scheduling conflicts, and other factors to consider, it is entirely possible.
Opportunities will continue to come your way and they may be better than the plans you had laid out. Until then, take the time to define what it was that you wanted to gain from the plans you initially had. Are they realistic in that the result you desire will come from them or not? What can you do to feel satisfaction and feel grounded in this moment? As for me, I will still have the opportunity to share the stories behind my tattoos with you in future and it could be that it will be better received at the time that it actually does post. Maybe the stories will resonate with someone at a time that they were needed. And I can take the time until then to work on other blog posts I have planned for you all in the months to come.
What do you do when things don’t go according to plan? How do you allow blessings to flow into your life? Let me know in the comments below!
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